When it comes to sex and desire, society tends to push the idea that there’s a ‘normal’ way to be intimate – and anything outside that box is taboo.
But here’s the truth:
What you think is weird, kinky, or strange is most probably more common than you realise.
What do you ‘think’ is normal?
Breaking the Taboo
Sexuality is one of the most misunderstood aspects of human life. For years, people have been taught to conform to certain standards of behaviour, driven by cultural norms and societal expectations. This has led to the rise of a taboo around anything that deviates from the ‘vanilla’ script of intimacy.
But the reality is far more nuanced. What people do behind closed doors is often a lot more diverse and far from what society labels as ‘normal’.
What Is ‘Normal’ Anyway?
Research suggests that the concept of ‘normal’ is more of a myth than fact. Studies on human sexual behaviour show that the range of desires, preferences, and fantasies is incredibly broad. From light bondage to role-playing, voyeurism to polyamory – many people indulge in what society labels as ‘kinks’ or ‘fetishes.’
Yet, these desires are neither abnormal nor uncommon. According to a 2017 study, 36% of people in a general population survey reported having engaged in some form of BDSM at least once. So, are these people ‘abnormal,’ or is it time to accept that what was once taboo is now far more mainstream?
Shame and Secrecy: The Real Harm
The problem with the myth of ‘normal’ sexuality is the guilt and shame it instils. People feel the need to hide their real desires because they’re afraid of judgement or rejection. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and isolation.
But the truth is, if people opened up more about what truly turns them on, they would likely find they are far from alone. When people allow themselves to explore without shame, they find a richer, more fulfilling experience in their relationships and sexual lives.
Why Are We Still Afraid to Talk About It?
The fear of discussing sexual desires stems from generations of repression. In many parts of the world, openly talking about sex is still frowned upon, especially if the discussion touches on anything seen as unconventional. As a result, the conversation remains trapped in whispered circles or hidden corners of the internet.
But here’s the kicker: the more we talk about sex and the diversity of desire, the more we normalise it. With discussions becoming more open, we challenge the outdated notion that there is only one ‘right’ way to be sexual.
You’re Not Alone – And You’re Not Weird
It’s time to stop feeling like there’s something wrong with you if your desires don’t fit into a neat, pre-packaged box. Whether you enjoy exploring role-play, watching, being watched, or taking control – or just feel curious about what’s out there – you’re not as different as you think. And that’s okay.
The only real danger is in continuing to believe that there’s such a thing as ‘normal’ sex at all. Desire is fluid, ever-changing, and totally unique to each person. The sooner we realise that, the sooner we’ll all stop feeling the need to fit into a non-existent mould.
The Takeaway? Embrace It.
The truth is, if you’re curious about exploring your sexuality, or if you’ve always been intrigued by things labelled ‘kinky’ or ‘taboo,’ you’re far from being an outsider. Millions of people around the world, from common people to celebrities and Royalty, share your curiosities and experiences. The more open we are about sex, the more likely we are to find communities, partners, and relationships that truly make us happy.
So, it’s time to toss the idea of ‘normal’ out the window. Your desires aren’t wrong, and they’re definitely not unusual. They are part of what makes us all human.
Embrace it. Explore it and remember…
The only thing abnormal about sex is thinking there’s such a thing as ‘normal’ to begin with.
When it comes to sex and desire, society tends to push the idea that there’s a ‘normal’ way to be intimate – and anything outside that box is taboo.
